Having Difficulty Engaging in Life? Try this and see if it Helps!
You may have experienced this sometime in your life…you have to do something so you reach out to people to help you and then you either do nothing or hire them to help and then don’t give them what they need to move forward.
Why is that?, you ask yourself and the answers you get back are “I’m so sad, scared, overwhelmed, too busy with all of the things that have to be done, or maybe because I don’t know what to do.” The thing is, you do know what to do because you did the research to find the person to help you, so ask yourself…..why all of the excuses?
I recently got a new client that is in this exact space right now and I’m going to say the following to you….YES all of those feelings are valid AND they are also the excuses you are giving yourself to NOT Engage with Your Life because somewhere in your mind if you don’t engage….this won’t be happening!
If this is where you are right now, here are a few ideas you can try!
- Start focusing on a new life, 5 years from now, the life where you are happy and this (not so good stuff) is all over. Ask yourself: What do I need to have that life (this may give you an insight into some of the fears you are experiencing now)
- Ask yourself about the ‘thing you’re putting off”, the one you haven’t started or can’t complete, and write down all of the reasons they are not doing it and then say to yourself…
- What is the worst thing that can happen to you if you complete it? (This is where you will get more real insight into the reasons you are not engaging with your life)
- Now what is the best thing that may happen to you when you complete it?
- Next, look for tiny wins! Break down things into very small steps that you need to do, write them down and then check them off your list when you’ve completed the small step
You see many times people choose not to engage in their life because they don’t want to fail so they just don’t try. Having tiny little steps to complete helps you see that it’s okay, nothing bad will happen, and you can do this!
- Lastly, try to imagine what might happen if you continue to not engage and/ or put off this thing. What opportunities might you have missed by doing nothing right now, is this what you want?
As a Divorce, Parenting, Co-Parenting, and Life Transition Coach, I work with individuals before, during, and after a divorce to become clear on what you need for your life, overcome the barriers that are keeping you from engaging in your life, create a plan that you can successfully, and empower you with the skills you need to support your children during and long after a divorce.
Simply put, I help healthy parents going through a tough life transition, find their center so they can continue moving forward with their future life and be fully engaged with their children!
warmly,
~janet